Choosing they/them pronouns instead of he/him or she/her pronouns is a personal decision. Each person has their own reasons why certain pronouns are right for them. But a reader asked me this question and I wanted to address it. Why use they/them pronouns instead of he or she? They/them pronouns are different than she/her or
Aren’t they/them pronouns confusing when you’re talking about one person in a group and it’s unclear who you mean? I get asked this SO OFTEN! Yeah, pronouns can be confusing, especially if you are talking about more than one person. Does “they” refer to Jenn, or Bob, or both of them? In this example, I’d
Use they/them pronouns to refer to someone without gendered pronouns such as “he” or “she.” Instead of saying, “he did that,” say, “they did that.” It’s that simple, in theory. But you may have other questions about they/them pronouns. We will clarify it all here, in this post all about they/them pronouns, explained! “They are”
Yesterday, two people used the wrong pronouns at work for me in written messages. Instead of saying “Let Rey know when your work is finished, so they can start the next step,” one message said “…she can start the next step.” This isn’t unusual. For example, the last time I went to the dentist, the
Are you wondering how to use gender-neutral pronouns in Spanish, or how to translate “they/them” into Spanish? I’m far from fluent, unfortunately, but I do speak un poquito de Español. Since gender-neutral pronouns are important for me to express myself and represent my gender identity externally, I wanted to learn and share about gender-neutral words
Many folks assume that people in my communities refer to me as “they” instead of “he” or “she” and that I go on a correcting rampage if someone gets it wrong. I almost never correct people, actually. Why? I defend other people’s pronouns much more strongly. I’ll interject, “they,” “she,” or “he,” as corrections into
I grew up with everyone using she/her pronouns for me. In my mid-twenties, a nonbinary friend listened when I said I didn’t feel like a woman and started using they/them pronouns for me experimentally. It felt right, better than “she” or “her.” I have never felt like a girl, even though I didn’t know about
